There are so many stories about children and teens being bullied all over the news. \u00a0What about the ones doing the bullying? \u00a0It has been documented time and time again about how great martial arts are for self-defense. \u00a0The bullying issue needs to be looked at from the other side. \u00a0Respect, Discipline, Confidence, Courage and humility are all things these children are missing. \u00a0Lucky for them they’re also things learned in a martial arts program. \u00a0I was never bullied, nor did I bully, but I guess you could have called me the bully\u2019s bully. \u00a0As a student of the martial arts I had the courage to stand up for those who didn’t, and more importantly the respect and confidence to try to teach the bullies right from wrong.<\/p>\n
Children who train in martial arts learn respect. \u00a0They either learn the hard way or the easy way. \u00a0Bullies on the mats of a Jiu Jitsu school don’t stay bullies for too long. \u00a0They learn what it’s like to be on the other end of the rough play. \u00a0This is a valuable lesson under the expert supervision of Black Belt Instructors like Wil Horneff, who have years of experience instructing children in the art of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. \u00a0They learn how to respect senior ranking students who are smaller, younger and maybe not as strong as them. \u00a0People these bullies would look at as a target now get a new sense of respect shown to them.<\/p>\n
Let’s speak about confidence. \u00a0Learning in school is a classroom full of students with all different types of abilities can crush a child\u2019s confidence. \u00a0This may lead to the child looking to take out his frustration on other children. \u00a0This is why “nerds” have always been picked on. \u00a0All children truly want to do well, some just learn at a different pace. Instructors like the ones at The Training Grounds MMA Academy offer a type of authority figure, much like their school teachers. \u00a0With a \u00a0“praise – correct – praise” \u00a0style of teaching the student feels a sense of accomplishment even while being corrected. \u00a0Exercise can also help children, and teens, focus. \u00a0This focus carries over to their school day.<\/p>\n
Some of the children come from a home where a “father figure” or “authority figure” may be missing. \u00a0This can put a huge burden on a single parent. \u00a0An athlete\u2019s coach many times is that figure for the athlete. \u00a0The instructors at Training Grounds care. \u00a0All some children need is someone to show them how to do the right thing. \u00a0As long as someone cares enough to put them in their place they will begin to learn to do the right thing even when no one is watching.<\/p>\n
If you feel your child may be the bully and you don’t know how to handle it, please feel free to contact me at nick@buddhasport.com or even stop down to Training Grounds and speak to one of our instructors. We will gladly give you some advice.<\/p>\n
About the author<\/p>\n
Nick Mirabella owns and operates Buddhasport.com an actions sports website. \u00a0He’s been training in martial arts for over 20 years and is a student of Training Ground’s BJJ program.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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